Gender messages that were prevalent in my culture growing up included the premise that girls were to be polite and agreeable in all social situations and were not allowed to disagree or argue out loud.  At the same time boys were allowed to joke, be rough, argue and get loud in social situations and were considered “men” and maturing or just defending their positions and becoming part of the group. ___________discuss this in their review in which aggression differed for males and females stating that females would be inwardly aggressive in their peer groups through talking behind other girl’s backs or spreading rumors.  The boys would become aggressive and want to fight or challenge each other physically or verbally.

On the other side of this coin both sexes were required to follow the social norms of manners and politeness.  Both the boys and the girls in my family were required to attend a “manners” school in order to learn appropriate behavior in social settings.  It did not matter that you were a boy or a girl, you were expected to behave appropriately regarding niceties, manners, and social reciprocal discussions on the rare occasion you attended a formal event.

There were many more exclusive gender expectations than not in my family although education was considered acceptable for both sexes.